Amid plans to implement workout routines, diets, meditation habits & business plans, one of the easiest things you can do to better yourself in 2019 is commit to reading a few self-help books. Here’s a list of some I plan to get through during the first half of the year:
Now that December is here its time to BATHE in glitter and everything holiday chic. One of my favorite parts of the holiday season is experimenting with festive makeup looks for holiday parties or even weekend drinks.
During the holidays I love a classic deep lip, some shimmer or sparkle on the eyes & fresh skin.
I rounded up some of the most glittery, glitzy, shimmery makeup items I could find. Any of these will be sure to add some holiday spirit to your look
I love classic camel but I’ve seen some fun colors as well that are perfect for injecting a little color into your wardrobe. You can pair a teddy coat with the most basic of outfits and instantly feel elevated. Shop a few I love below!
Hey guys! I’m back from a brief hiatius & promise to have more regular content coming your way.
During the past month, I’ve added one new item to my skincare routine & I have never had better skin in my entire life. If you’ve read other posts or follow me on social media, you’ll know that I struggle with hormonal, cystic breakouts, those super deep blemishes that come & go and are impossible to treat topically.
It seems to have gotten worse as I’ve gotten older, and I have this theory that my body is giving me a big fuck you when every month it realizes I’m not bearing a child (thanks, hormones). Before I changed my routine I was averaging 2-3 cortisone injections (yes you can get HUGE blemishes injected to help them shrink & prevent scarring) a MONTH. That’s like $150 worth of treatments for something isn’t preventative!
This led me to explore LED light therapy. If you’re not familiar, LED is a non-invasive painless light treatment that uses both red (for wrinkles) and blue (for acne) light to improve skin. Red LED light stimulates collagen which adds plumpness to skin, improves texture and reduces wrinkles. Blue light kills bacteria that causes acne and also decreases oil production & shrinks pores.
You can get LED therapy during facials, but it’s very expensive (like $200 a treatment), and the most effective way to get the benefits is through everyday use.
So… when Dermstore was having a sale I bought the Dr. Dennis Gross Spectralite Faceware Pro and let me tell you, it’s the best purchase I’ve ever made. At just under $450 it’s a huge investment, and I definitely got a little bit nauseous after I pressed “buy”, but it has paid for itself and then some in the time I’ve used it.
The mask is freaky, you look like a transformer when you put it on. I’ve been using once, sometimes twice a day, after cleansing and before I apply any skincare products. Note: definitely don’t put sunscreen on before you use, it blocks some of the light, but don’t worry, LED is not the same as UV and there is no damage done to your skin. There’s a red, blue or purple (red+ blue) setting to combat wrinkles, acne, or both. I’ve been using the purple setting because I’ve definitely noticed fine lines so want to just get everything taken care of everything in one fell swoop. The mask has a set timer for 3 minutes so I just sit & relax while the LED does its work on my face and then wait for the light to shut off. It’s that easy.
Within a week I noticed redness was reduced & my skin seemed smoother and more even. My boyfriend noticed right away, which means it must have been pretty obvious because… men. By week 2 & 3 I was not breaking out at all, I got one tiny bump around that time of the month but it was so minor I didn’t care. Marks from old blemished have been reduced and I just look better all around. I’ve started wearing less makeup, venturing out of the house & even to work with just sunscreen, moisturizer & some brow gel, which I would rarely do before. I wanted to see how the mask worked on it own so I stopped all of my other anti-acne treatments & have just been washing my face, toning & using moisturizer and the results are phenomenal.
This isn’t a paid endorsement (I wish I got this for free) but I really can’t speak highly enough of this mask. It’s seriously lifechanging and I feel like I’m saving so much money becuase I just don’t have to worry about treating huge cystic blemishes. buying new products etc. It’s expensive, but when I added up all the other products/services I was using to just keep my skin feeling normal I realized I’ve saved a lot of money.
In short, if you struggle with cystic acne and or fine lines & can fit this into your budget, definitely get your hands on this baby. Totally SimpyB approved.
Fall clothing is great…. but fall shoes are really where it’s at. With many different pant & skirt styles out this season, midi skirts, wide leg pants etc, there are tons of opportunities to work different styles into your rotation. Here are a few of my favorites
Over the Knee Boots
Yes, these are nothing new, but OTK boots go with everything. Pair them with sleek dark denim & a sweater during the day and wear them with a mini dress to keep your legs warm but still show a bit of skin at night.
Mules are the ultimate lazy girl show, they make any outfit look more put together but are super easy to wear. I love heeled versions for night & wear my flat versions with literally everything during the day
I’m definitely going to invest in a pair of these this season. You know how annoying it is when you’re wearing ankle boots with jeans and the jeans are either too loose to tuck but don’t look right when cuffed OR you can tuck them in but your ankles just look super weird… anyone? Happens to me all the time and these are the perfect fix, they keep you looking sleek & put together when wearing straight leg denim, and add some sex appeal to bare legs.
Block heels make every look a bit chicer & more polished, and are super comfortable. I love playing with different textures & colors like the vinyl & yellow tweed one below, but a Chanel-esque classic cap toe is also amazing
If you’ve been looking at my IG you’ve probably seen I was in Cabo recently! This was the first real vacation I’ve taken for a while, and it was a much needed three days of rest.
We stayed at Cabo Azul, which I can’t recommend enough. Incredibly clean, beautiful pools, a swim up bar (which is kind of a must for me), & a Javier’s at the resort! We ended up eating there almost every night becuase it was so good and just a quick walk from our room.
At the suggestion of some friends, we went to Flora Farms which I can’t recommend enough. Its a working farm in the hills of San Jose del Cabo, with amazing restaurant featuring produce grown on the farm. Great cocktails & wine list as well. You can wander around the grounds and pop into the little shops they have available, one of which was a wine tasting room. I learned so much about Mexican wine, definitely want to plan a trip to Guadalupe Valley soon to visit some wineries.
As much as I’m an advocate for mental health awareness, for taking the stigma away from mental illness, for being open and honest about mental health issues….. I never considered myself to be mentally ill. Or if I did, I was mentally ill in a way that was socially acceptable. I don’t feel ill, I don’t wake up and think about my illness, I don’t classify myself as ill. I’m not bi-polar, I’m not schizophrenic, I don’t have any of the illnesses that you think of when you think of “mental illness.”
But the reality is, I’ve been medicated since I was eight years old for a combination of anxiety and depression. That’s twenty years of a steady stream of anti-depressants & anti-anxiety meds. Before anyone gets on their soapbox about medicating children– let me note that when I first started taking these meds, no one saw any reason to not medicate their children if it was going to help them. I’m going to leave the circumstances as to why I was probably depressed & anxious aside, but for all intents and purposes, I was an eight-year-old hot mess–and probably really did need some help.
But here were are, twenty years later. I still need help.
I don’t think most people would look at me and assume that I have either of these issues. The anxiety definitely comes through a bit, and I’ve generally been pretty open about my issues with that. It’s easy to be self- deprecating with anxiety, it goes along with being high-strung and type A, and unfortunately, most people think of it as a “woman’s” mental illness; picture the archetypal anxious mother fussing over her children (this is bullshit and a stereotype that harms men too, as over 100 million men in the US deal with anxiety, but I’ll leave that for another day.) Everyone does have some level of anxiety, the fight or flight phenomena is a real thing and can bleed through into your everyday life, but obviously, for some, it’s worse and can be crippling.
For me, it’s panic attacks, it’s hypochondria, it’s weirdly physical symptoms like heart palpitations & tics, its an underlying sense of doom, it’s thinking someone is dead when they don’t answer the phone (every single guy I’ve dated has had to deal with me thinking they’re dead at one point or another, don’t even get me started on family members).
But again, I’ve been open about my anxiety, and there are ways to manage it other than medication. Meditation has helped me a ton, and even though I’ve fallen off the bandwagon a bit with my daily practice, I know it’s there for me as a resource.
Depression is the issue I’ve kept hidden for the most part. I don’t look depressed. I don’t seem depressed, I’m not walking around bedraggled with sad eyes. Most of the time, I’m not depressed, because I’m medicated for it; but I still have depression. Depression has different connotations than anxiety, it makes people think you’re weak-willed, you can’t pull yourself up by your bootstraps… you’re just a bummer. I’m none of those things, but I am someone who suffers from depression, and in all honesty, I carry a lot of shame around it. People are not always kind when it comes to this issue.
Probably because of the age that I’m at, the biological changes that come with aging (I’m assuming my brain has evolved somewhat since I was eight) a few months ago I found that my regular medication wasn’t as effective. It didn’t stop working, I just had to work a lot harder to maintain my equilibrium.
I noticed mood changes that seemingly have nothing to do with my life circumstances, because to be honest, right now, and even at the point in time I went through this, I’m the happiest I’ve been in quite a long time. The changes were like feeling horribly overwhelmed by the idea of washing my hair, like whaaaaat? It sounds ridiculous, but I felt so deeply tired that I was brought to tears when I thought about the day ahead of me. I’m a 28-year-old, unmarried woman with no kids and a very cute dog…. my life isn’t hard, by any stretch of the imagination. But I’m telling you there are little things that just feel EXHAUSTING when you’re going through a depression period. It’s as if you’re moving through quicksand and every step, every sentence, every email, every trip to the grocery store and every human interaction takes an ungodly amount of energy. I know enough to know that feeling that way isn’t normal.
I spoke to my doctor, and she agreed I was probably developing a tolerance to the meds. So a few months ago we agreed to increase the dose. It was a nightmare. Headaches, worsened anxiety, super weird physical symptoms, like ringing in the ears, blurry vision, a feeling of my throat closing up, not being able to catch my breath. I stuck it out for two weeks and then decided I couldn’t handle any more of the adjustment period. My doctor said the symptoms would go away, and I’m sure they would have, but there is never a convenient time to feel like a complete basket case. I can’t put my life, my job and my relationships on hold until I’ve “adjusted.”It seemed like it was just a phase of depression, brought on by nothing I could remotely pinpoint, and about month later, it was gone.
So, I don’t know what the answer to this issue is, becuase I don’t think there is one. Maybe I just deal with random periods of feeling deeply exhausted & highly sensitive. Luckily for me, these episodes are just that, episodes. Maybe I workout more, meditate more, try this new medication thing again. There’s no right answer, and there’s no cure. This is something I’ll need to deal with for the rest of my life, and sometimes that freaks me out.
I’m going to be fine, but there are so many peoples who aren’t fine, and I’ve felt like a little bit of a coward for not being more honest about my struggle with anxiety & depression, especially when I share a decent amount of my life on social media & on this blog (mainly my clothes and make-up and my dog, but still). I really pride myself on being authentic and honest, and so I hope that for anyone who reads this and struggles with similar issues, this makes you feel a little bit less alone. At the very least, it makes me feel like less of a hypocrite.
Happy World Mental Health Day, take care of yourselves, everyone.
Hi everyone! Apologies for the lack of blog posts, but I just got back from a fantastic trip to Cabo & definitely took a bit of time to unwind. While I was there I tried to keep my beauty & hair routine as minimal as possible, so thought I would share what I packed with you guys!
With 90+ degree temps & humidity, plus frequent pools dips, no one wants to be dealing with a ton of makeup & high maintenance hair. I even told my boyfriend that I was committing to not wearing makeup the whole trip… but didn’t end up sticking to that haha. At the very least, I kept things low key. If you’ve read my Summer Heat Proof Makeup blog post, then you’re probably familiar with some of my favorite warm-weather products. For this trip, I brought the following:
Pretty minimal if I do say so myself! My go-to cosmetics case this hanging Tartan & Twine one, so I can hang it up out of the way. Hope this was helpful, are any of you going on any beach/warm weather vacations soon? Let me know in the comments!
It can be hard to figure out when to spend money on an investment piece or save & buy a cheaper version. The overall goal is for your wardrobe & outfits to look high quality, even if the majority of the pieces you’re wearing were bought on a budget. Here’s my rundown of the items you should definitely have in your wardrobe and which ones you should splurge on vs save on.
There are so many great direct to consumer brands and companies that specialize in high-quality t-shirts without the price tag, so there’s no need to pay $100 for the perfect white shirt. Everlane is my absolute favorite for everything from t-shirts to sweaters.
A leather or suede jacket is a wardrobe staple and should definitely be high quality. That being said, you don’t need to spend $500 on one. Blank NYC has some amazing suede jackets and in a bunch of different colors for under $200, and ASOS also has some really high-quality ones for reasonable prices as well.
I’m of two minds about sunglasses. On one hand, there are so many trends in eyewear that come and go, I like to buy a few pairs of trendy sunglasses each season, nothing more than $50 bucks. But I also think its necessary to have 1-2 good pairs of timeless high-quality sunglasses, they make every outfit look chic. My Celine sunglasses retail for around $500 but I bought mine used on PoshMark for less than half the price. Look for sales at department stores or gently used items on sites like Tradesy or Poshmark when buying designer glasses.
Heels, whether sandals or pumps are an item that I think shows quality (or lack of) very easily. That being said, you don’t need to spend a ton to get a good pair of heels. Schutz has some really great options, most for under $200. Stuart Weitzman Nudist Sandals are the ultimate luxury basic heel, but retail for around $500. I found my pair on major sale, so its worth keeping an eye out when sites like ShopBop, Revolve, Nordstrom or Bloomingdales have sitewide sales.
I think denim, not trendy, of the moment jeans but real quality denim, is a great investment piece. You can’t get away with stretchy Forever21 jeans forever, and most people can’t even get away with them when they’re 21. That being said, I won’t spend $400 on jeans, that’s ridiculous to me. I draw the line around $250 and generally try to buy jeans under $200. Some of my favorites are GRLFRND Denim, AGolde & Madewell
I hope my splurge vs save tips were helpful! Let me know your thoughts in the comments!